Is there support for single moms?
by Diane Claire Nauschutz
I’m a 37 years old single mother. I’ve got the most amazing 10 month old daughter BUT am taking strain at the moment and feel all alone in this parenting thing which is even more compounded considering I have no support from family or friends (my family are scattered across the globe or stay far away and my friends do not have babies; I’m a late bloomer) and most of the invites I get are NOT baby friendly.
I would like to join a group (play group or any form of support group) where I can meet and mingle with mothers in a similar situation to me or even just moms who get together to swop ideas, stories and/or advice.
I’m really hoping that I can find something, as I’m desperate and feeling so alone in this parenting thing and would love some support. Anyone out there have any ideas?
Hey hey! Where are you situated?
There are LOADS of us single moms here in Joburg
And I know a few awesome ways in CT and Durban!
Mail me laurakallmayer@gmail.com
sorry to read about your life ,no matter how alone you feel ,try and remember your child loves you unconditionally ..Sometimes we go through difficult times to teach us lessens that stay with us for life ..try and set up a small social group in your area..you might find you wont be the only one going through hard times .My thoughts go out to you and I pray you find happiness and peace within ..Listen to Nat King Cole’s SMILE..
a link to start a new life ..http://www.meetup.com/
hi “roospooscreate”
thank you so much for your supportive words, song (i’m downloading it now) and link (also viewing that now). i know this too shall pass, all the cliches makes sense in hindsight, but when you’re feeling alone and overwhelmed – they make no sense at all and just seem to compound one’s feeling of being the only one. i’m not the first one and i certainly won’t be the last one to be a single mom BUT i do feel like i am right now because my support groups of sorts seems to have it all
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take care – love and light,
Diane
peace and blessing upon you and your family
hi i am a 30 year old single father my son is going
to turn 1 years old on 13 of october. its been a long 11 months and 25 days. i had many ups and downs. Come to think about it, just like every other job i had but this is the most fulfilling job of all. So hang in there because you are doing a great job, walk with your head held high you are giving love care and attention to your child and i bet your baby, your child is giving blessing for having a mum like you. My sister who is very wise and a mom of 4 boys gave me some great advice ” enjoy every momemnt with your baby when he laughs when he smile even when he cries for your attention or when he is in a mood of his own……love every moment with him as if it was your last because before you know it he will be all grown up”. Being a parent changes ones life. All we as parents got to do is expect and manage the new change. Most of all have fun because children love to have fun
take care you 2
I am a single mom too, and a support network is vital. I would not have coped without my friends. Like Laura said come meet us if you are in Jhb or Pta otherwise I hope there are other moms in your area that respond.
What about joining a parenting forum like Baby Net http://www.iol.co.za/html/babynet/talk/ they are mostly South Africa and you can get on line support for parenting stuff and make some great real life friends too. I have a lot of friends from there even though I don’t chat that must anymore.
Good luck and I hope you find a support group
Hello everyone, I would like to take this opportunity to introduce myself. My name is Nadia, I am a counsellor in private practice in Cpt and am starting Single Parents Chat Group Meetings. The next one is on 14th Nov in Table view. For more info you can log onto http://www.sadsa.net and check out the what’s on page.
I look forward to meeting you.
Kindest regards
Nadia
Hi Diane
Im a single mom of a darling 4 year old son. I know that it is a very isolating and lonely experience at times. My son is going to spend Christmas in Durban this year, his first Christmas without me and I am dreading it already…
Anyway email me if you’d like to chat sometime. tracey@thecodetolife.co.za
Hi Diane
I am in pretty much the same situation as you. Single mom, 2 girls, plus new in town and far away from family, with absolutely no support system.
And I hear you, no matter what it is a very lonely road. I absolutely adore my kids, but I really think as a mom you do need a break from time to time…just haven’t quite figured out how to go about that one yet..:)
Feel free to email me as well anitacsent@gmail.com
Hi Diane
Did you eventually find a support group? If so, please let me know, as I too am looking for one. I live in Cape Town. My husband just died and besided struggling with the 2 kids, aged 2 and 4, I am also struggling with the loss of a great husband and father. I feel so alone. I cannot talk to anyone and keep myself brave for the kids and at work, as if I don’t, I will just cry all the time. I feel like I am falling apart. I yell at the kids, out of pure frustration and tiredness. I am so busy with everything that I must now do on my own, that I don’t spend enough time with them and I feel really bad about this. They also feel the loss of their dad and I just don’t know how to deal with it. Please ,if anyone out there can help. My email address is: tanias@cmp.co.za
Myself and one of my friends, are both single parents, and struggle to find a group of people who have the same sort of interests as we are both relatively young. Also, we struggle in the romance department, as many men we often meet, say they’re not intimidated by the fact that we have children, but then you actually start liking the person, then it becomes a problem. So, any suggestions to becoming more interactive with other parents in the same sort of situation would be extremely helpful
@ Tarryn,
hi there,
there is a great website; the mommies hold get togethers every month or so; http://www.mommalicious.co.za/
good luck
xx
Hi,
I too am a single mum in Jhb. Most of my family is in Durban and my ex and I had moved here so it would be easier for him to find work. Now I have a great job and he has gone back to Europe! All my friends here are still single or in serious relationships and cannot understand my situation! I would love to hang out with other single parents who can relate to my life…Late 20′s and still enjoy a good night out! Please let me know what is going on in Josies…
Hello, I m a new single mum with a 16 months old little girl with no family support or friends. I feel like I m gonna loose my mind, crying a lot and so wish I can meet other mums, so we can maybe exchange ideas, support each other,… there is a lot of baby/mum groups but all during the week. I m in Cape Town in southern suburb. Please let me know if anyone would like to start a get together.
beafouque@yahoo.fr
hi,
how do i remove this post?
never mind.
i never realised mom’s were still replying ;0)
check out the website i posted: momalicious mamma’s website; they have support groups in all provinces!