Making time for 2 when you are 3
By Gina Jacobson, a mom, a leo. She works for a non-profit organisation, is a procrastinator, loves sci-fi, sushi, good books and scrabble.Her blog is made up of A Bit of This a Bit of That.
With our 4th wedding anniversary coming up followed very closely by Valentine’s day I have been very busy thinking up ways to make that weekend romantic and intimate for Paul and I. It’s also made me think about how often (or not so often) we get ‘lone’ time.
One of the ways we ensure that we don’t go stark raving ‘TellieTubbies-Tweenies-MeToo-BoogieBeebies-GetSquiggling’ mad is by getting my mom to have Aaron over for a sleep over every 2nd or 3rd Saturday night. We spend that time relaxing by watching TV or going to see a movie or spending time with our friends.
I think we do need to make better use of that time by going out for dinner just the two of us, you know, the whole spiel, candles, wine, and dessert.
Another idea that recently came up is going out of town for a long weekend. When Paul mentioned going to Cape Town our first thought was child-friendly accommodation. Then I though to myself, well, maybe its time for Aaron to have an extended sleep over, 2 nights with his nana?
Just imagine 3 days, 2 nights, child free in another city…
It would be like having a mini honeymoon. It doesn’t even have to be in Cape Town, it could be in Magaliesburg or some place else that’s only a few hours away.
I also think that part of the fun is making the plans to spend ‘lone’ time together, the anticipation and excitement.
So, while I go and start making these ideas happen, tell me what you do to make time for yourselves…
Hi Gina! This is all so true and I agree with everything you say. We have it a bit more challenging I’m afraid. My husband goes away very often for at least two weeks at a time, and sometimes as little as 5 days at home, so needless to say the time spent together is time recovering from one trip and getting ready for the next and also getting as much daddy and son time in as possible. These are just more problems you might be thinking, but here is our solution.
We make a point of it to take at least one day out of the time that he is home and we make it a special day. We postponed Christmas twice and ended up having it half way through January, but the tree was up and we opened presents and had the whole lunch thing. The same will happen with Valentines day. He won’t be here on that exact date but who cares. Every day is what you make of it and regardless of the date you can make it what you want it to be. We hardly ever have our birthdays on the correct date as we need to find ways to work around our hectic lifestyles. And it’s so true, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I hope this doesn’t sound too crazy but it works for us!